> 3.  I need to check for updates to the site but DONT want 
> to delete the stuff I already have (no overwrite).  How 
can 
> I check the site for updates, download them on the 
server, 
> then ftp the newest stuff to my box?
To update:
httrack --update --purge-old=no <yoursite> -O /tmp/foobar

Then, the best IMHO thing would be to rsync the files using
rsync -avz /tmp/foobar user@192.168.12.34:/tmp/

Of course tou'll have to have access to a shell (ssh, 
telnet..) for that.

If not, use ftp and mirror-update (lftp does this very 
well - see help mirror: mirror -n -r ..)