thanks for the reply, seems like there is nothing i can do but wait. I'm sure
i'ts not a memory leak as it is  taking only 50mb so far. As for the max
connection i know 30 is way too much but i just wanted a large enough number
to see if it would make any difference, but it doesn't active connections is
always 1, so i have reduced max connection to 4 since it would never even
reach that.